Her name is T Jay

My name is T.

Really. Just the letter. Jay is my middle name. Oddly enough, when I first started coming out to family and friends, the first question most people asked was, “What are you changing your name to?”

Honestly, I love my name! I am extremely grateful that it’s incredibly gender neutral. My therapist reinforced that by telling me, “It’s a really cute woman’s name.” Talk about a confidence booster.

If you hadn’t picked up on it yet, yes, I am transgender. Male to female specifically. This website is a place to document my search for authenticity, part of which is medical transition. You could have asked me if being trans was “real” even 6 months ago and I would have strongly denied it.

It’s part of the attitude that kept me shrouded in a fog of depression, anxiety, and stress for most of my life. I couldn’t reconcile that I was as God made me – female to my core but oh-so-physically male. It was through the course of last year, given plenty of time to contemplate, and with the help of a good therapist, that I was able to connect my creation to my existence and realize

I’m not broken. I’m not a mistake. God has put tools in my path to help me find peace with myself and being His creation. Not a broken mistake. Holding onto a new truth, I started medical transition in November of 2020. If you’d like to follow my story, stick around.

Catch up with me.

Today You Are Beautiful Every Day

I am more than my journey through transition.

I’ve lived much of my life in a dense fog of depression, anxiety, and stress. I will be the first to admit that I was most often negative, grumpy, and short; generally, not a whole lot of fun to hang around. I was also good at hiding it from anyone but my family. They always knew something was out of sync.

When I finally came out and started to make steps toward living an authentic life, the fog began to lift and life took on a new color. It’s more vibrant, full of emotion, and pretty darn exciting. I can’t remember the last time I was excited for the next day, next month, next year.

My creative spark has also been reignited. I find myself designing more, taking better photos (the new Canon M50 helps a bunch though), making more stuff with my Cricut (Etsy shop coming soon) and able to remember more of those late-night, brain-flash ideas.

I love to share the things I make, so you’ll find that here too. I am more than my transition. I am a parent, a creative, a photographer, a lover of music and sounds on vinyl, a lover of cars, mountains, pine needles and sunshine. I am also transgender. I am all of these things and I choose them to help define my life. I do not choose to let them define my life.

This is a journey, and I don’t think anyone said it better than Bilbo Baggins in the third age:

Her name is T Jay

“It’s a dangerous business, Frodo,
going out your door.

You step onto the road,
and if you don’t
keep your feet, 

there’s no knowing
where you might
be swept off to.”

Let's see where this road goes, together.